Why call yourself an ex-South African?
Nothing infuriates me more than when someone specifically makes mention that they are an ex-South African (or any other country for that matter). I get absolutely the hacked off by this.
I often get the defence that it is simply stating that they used to live in South Africa. Well for the record, living in a country does not make you a citizen. By making the effort to point out and announce that you are an ex-South African, you are saying that you are no longer a citizen.
This brings me to the point that I wish to make. If you are an ex-South African, you are de facto another citizen. Instead of making a note of what you are not, make a point of mentioning what you are. Take pride in this…support the new country you are now a citizen off.
To this I would like to request that you also stop representing South Africa. As an ex-South African you have no right to do that. You have given up the right to represent this great country, get on with your life as a citizen of another country and support them. We have enough active citizens and really no longer require your input.
I had thought though that in giving yourself the ex-South African identity, it is so that you can actually have some sort of identity. I think the root is that you have not been accepted as a citizen of the country you have chosen, because you have not made an effort. Your identity ironically is found in this “Ex” status. You, for whatever reason, have chosen this to be your identity and I would bet, in your new country, you are introduced as the Ex-South African.
You then proceed to berate and malign this great country and the “pre-emminent expert” on the country. After all as the person who has given up on this country, who better qualified to make an opinion.
Well many will see this as a rant, and it is, I will make no apologies for this. Stop calling yourself an ex-citizen, embrace your new found home and live as the active citizen in that country. After all you demonstrated your commitment already and we are sure that you will do the same in your new country!